Been on a long hiatus cause.. i also dk why. Haha. Having some time now cause waiting for Miss Fiancé to be done with work. So i thought i blog a bit la.
So after quite some time of not blogging, im left with 2 mths sey! 2 mths to be a legit Husband to someone. Tbh, maybe i dont think of the pressure of being a husband just yet while Miss Fiancé is alrdy freaking out. Haha.
I just thought abt it recently on what it feels like to be a husband. The responsibility that comes with it. What direction that i would want us to go. What is our motto between eachother and all that. I have lesser worries abt the wedding as im much more worried to be someone’s husband. Like dont you guys feel that title is so huge? 7 letter words that encompass responsibility, leadership, love, caring, sensitive, gentle and etc.
One thing that would start my mind thinking is the common quote of “our wife is made from us. She symbolises our rib. Too hard it will be broken, too soft it will just be bent and not straighten”. From this quote tells me a lot of stuff alrdy. How we soon-to-be-husbands must be tactful in giving advises to our wife. How we should understand her emotions. Read her body language and what is the right way that could get the message across into her heart for her to remember Allah swt. Definitely being harsh is not the way to go but then what is the best way? Only you know guys.
With this also comes the topic on financial. Everyone knows that majority of the ladies are a big spender. So how do you want to control your financial as the head of the household. Maybe some couples work differently but for me, i do want to know where our money goes. At this current era and generation, having plan B, C, D to Z is always good to have. We cannot afford to spend and enjoy always like how others does it. Confirm you will think i kedekut right? HAHAHA! Up to you but i would like to think of it as being financially educated. House, baby, renovation that is coming up along the way im sure you have to be financially educated forcefully or willingly. Theres no escape route unless you kaya gila la.
Motto. As guys im sure we can be focus for one thing at a time thus what do we want in our family/relationship? Cliché answer would be to lead our wife and family to Jannah tho it is correct but in what way? This should be running through your mind alrdy by now as the day comes close. We are the leaders of our family (feminist ideas pls dont kepo) and we should be doing what was ordained for us. What we are created for and to fulfill that responsibility. If we are not even strong emotionally and physically, our wife and children will feel the repercussion.
Definitely at times we, Men, are weak too. Thus we got our lovely wife to be there for us. Guys, pls do share your feelings and how your day went with your partner. Dont just give a 1 word answer. Just talk to them. Start from now, in shaa Allah you will get the hang of it. Kalau tk suka, you say gently and nicely (this takes practise man serious). Its the best way bro.
I refuse to let negativity manifest itself inside of me from married guys/couples telling me what they felt after they got married. Being married is such a blessing from Allah swt and its a Sunnah. Although there will be complication with human problems, its life right? What is life without ups and downs. Fights and hugs. Its meant to be colourful. Not just a consistent routine.
I may not be married yet but i observe a lot. Toodles!